Wednesday, March 14, 2007

Under Seige

That is what best described yesterday with Nick. It was horrible. His tantrums are getting more frequent-and they last---for hours. He throws things, screams at the top of his lungs, and bangs his head on anything around. He banged it so hard yesterday that Mike was worried he would knock himself out. Mike was literally at breaking point. He has no idea of how to handle this. It breaks his heart to see his son hurt himself. It breaks my heart too. I have never felt as hopeless as I did yesterday. How do you parent a kid like this? We had a long talk yesterday about how to handle his meltdowns. Mike was mad that I put him in his room and shut the door-why? Because he just screamed even more and banged his head even harder. Mike did end up spanking him-a fact that neither of us are proud of. We talked yesterday about how we should deal with this-this is different than when Michael would throw a tantrum(remember those doozies??!)This has really put our marriage to the test, and I can see how couples would divorce over such issues. I know Mike loves Nick with all his heart, and it is just breaking over this. We had so many dreams for him, and now we dont even know if he will ever reach them. It seems like such a long shot from where we are at now.

We had our appt. with the nutritionist yesterday. Nick was his peachy little self-after having screamed the entire morning. He has managed to gain weight and height despite his many issues with food. He weighs 30lbs and is 38" tall. The nutritionist IS going to recommend he get therapy for eating!!! THANK YOU LORD!!! She said that we are doing a wonderful job with the babyfoods we are giving him,as well as the vitamins and pediasure. She said that technically he is "Too healthy" for their clinic,but she did see that we are just frustrated and in need of some outside help. It is just one more therapy for us to add to our list.


Jessica said...

I know just how you feel Amy. I, too, can see why so many marriages end over this. It's heartbreaking. Feel free to email me anytime you want to talk. I'll even be willing to give you my number if you need to talk that way as well.


amy said...

Thanks Jessica! That is so nice of you!! If you would like my e-mail address then just let me know--it is so lonely sometimes in this world of autism.

Jessica said...

I would love your email address. It just amazes me how much our guys are alike. To find someone who is going through exactly what you are is precious. My email is